Is having a social life scary?
Have you ever wondered why it is important to you?
This has become a need in youngsters, especially those who see having a social life as prodigious.
Being socially competent nowadays is a challenge because of the expectations that teenagers face.
They have overlooked the importance of togetherness with real people and are instead engaging with virtual beings.
This addiction to social networking might cost us more than we can imagine; it is slowly taking over actual human beings and trying to replace them with internet life.
The amount of diversity that we have in our university is incredible. This brings in remarkable amounts of cultural exchange.
We see many Hispanic events happening around campus and, similarly, plenty of Indian events, African American events and so on.
However, the people who attend these events are people who belong to that community, and very few are from other cultures.
Why are students not utilizing these opportunities to learn and understand those cultures?
Instead, many students would rather see the pictures of these events on Instagram or Facebook and would double tap to like or hit the love button.
I guess that’s learning about culture for them.
They would rather ask the Google “god” for information on any culture they want, which minimizes the need for having a real life experience.
The majority of sharing among teenagers of this generation is via the internet, text messages and through social media.
I see friends who text each another from two steps away. I encounter people busy on phones, while they are at dinner with a bunch of people.
Is there no one around you to talk?
Is it so important to text someone who is not beside you right now?
Don’t you have the courtesy to spend time with people in front of you?
Or is it just me imagining that living in the moment with those around you is important and counts?
Or am I oblivious of the fact that texting is mainstream now?
We also come across many events happening in and around our campus, including professional development opportunities floating around.
These events are not just a place to grab some free goodies or free food (which I love). They are supposed to be a platform for networking, learning cultures and understanding the works.
These places will introduce you to your future employer, colleagues, or help you in developing your social skills.
Being too engrossed on your phone robs you of all these incredible experiences and opportunities.
Having an account on Linkedin does not define your skills.
Your extracurricular activities portray your personal skills as well.
Please don’t write ‘I have good teamwork skills,’ because you might have to define your skills with previous experience of being in a team. Group messages does not count.
Have you heard about iceberg theory?
In this theory, it explains how we focus more on the tip of the iceberg but are oblivious of the depth of the part submerged in water.
This is similar to the many concepts of culture, careers and diversity. The tip of the iceberg is visible, but the depth of it is invisible.
It would be visible to those who dive deep into it to understand its complete picture.
The tip of a culture includes their attire, food, music and festivals, whereas the depth of it includes their values, thoughts, religious beliefs, perception and much more.
Similarly, it is possible that young people are unable to comprehend the importance of togetherness, sharing and learning about cultures in real social life.
They are only seeing the tip of the problem with virtual social life.
Maybe it is time that we come out of the world of social networking and start loving and experiencing what real social life helps us do and where it allows us to go.
I have seen students walking on campus with their headphones in and are completely disconnected with people around them.
It is time to unplug the earphones and walk with embracing the nature and people around you.
Stop texting and walking because one, it is dangerous; and two, it has another much more dangerous consequence: it disconnects you from your friends who are with you.
I won’t bash social network completely because it does have its benefits, but one should always be aware that it should be balanced out with healthy social interaction.
Stop being busy in the virtual social world and start living in real world.